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You must have heard about a lot of measures which claim to be the best measures for making improvements to your love relationship and to bring your partner much more closure than before. The most common among them are giving flowers and chocolates to your partner, wearing beautiful attractive dresses, telling “I love you” again and again, etc. People are doing these things and some of them are getting the benefit too.

But believe me, these are only the temporary short-term solutions which may heal your relationship only for a short period of time but if the principal “aspects of a relationship” are missing there, these measures would not work for long. These measures are like a repairing process to a building. But if the base of your building will be strong enough and the quality ingredients will be used, you will not have to repair your building again and again.

So here we will stand a little above and touch a few deep aspects of a relationship. Here we will talk about 10 most vital aspects, the presence of which makes any love relationship an ideal one.

Relationship|Aspects of a Relationship:

1. True Love:

You must be thinking, what’s going on here because we all have that much of common sense that a love relationship must contain love in it. Let me clarify. Here we are not talking about love; here we are talking about true love, the unconditional one. As the definition of love is different for different people, it is very much essential to understand the concept of true love. Let me give an example to explain it. True love doesn’t require you to say “I love you” to your partner again and again. It’s not even necessary to tell it for a single time because true love is something which can’t be heard or seen. It could only be felt.

If there will be love, your partner would be able to feel it in your activities. In simple words, if there is lack of love, care, and emotions; words have to come in between to fulfill it but if there would be enough love, care, and emotions; there would be a very little requirement of words as the bonding will be the strongest. Always remember, “love is the most beautiful feeling in the world” and feeling can’t be expressed in words. So if you do care your partner, you need not explain it. Your activities will always be there to explain everything.

So, if this most important aspect is present there in your relationship, you will never have to use any explanations to your partner to explain your love.

2. Ego Free Heart:

Where there is love, there is no place for ego. Love cannot survive in a heart where the ego exists. The word “ego” seems to be very small but due to it billions of relationships have been finished without reaching its destinations. If the factor of true love exists in your relationship, you are in a much better position to understand that you and your partner have no separate existence for the time being. And ego always requires at least two persons to keep its existence. So if you truly love your partner you should not consider yourselves as two different persons rather consider yourselves as one identity having only one heart. And at the very moment when you would start realizing the same, there will be no place for ego.

In most of the relationships, people never want to apologize for any argument happened. The only reason is they never want to prove themselves wrong in front of their partners. And the same feeling restricts their partners as well. This is nothing but ego which creates a distance between them which continues growing day by day and finally ends in a break-up or divorce.

So after any fight or argument, don’t wait for your partner to say sorry. Don’t let your ego come in between it. Whether it is your mistake or not, just say sorry to your partner. If it would be your mistake, your partner’s love for you will increase and if there would not be your mistake, your partner will definitely feel guilty and say sorry later on if your partner also truly loves you. As an ultimate result, the love and bonding between you and your partner will increase.

3. Partner’s Point of View:

In an ideal love relationship, we must have the ability to look at every scenario from our partner’s point of view. Considering only our own point of view in any situation is just like purchasing a sealed box without looking inside of it. That box might be beautiful enough from outside but the inner side of it may change your mind of purchasing it as well. In this scenario, our decision may be correct or we may have to face a big loss.

If in any argument we are considering only our own point of view, we are looking at only half aspect of the scenario. In that case, we would not be able to take an appropriate decision. But if we will look at different scenarios from our partner’s point of view too, believe me; most of the arguments will finish automatically.

So start giving respect to your partner’s point of view too because this is the only way your partner will respect your point of view.

4. Trust and Transparency:

As I have discussed earlier, if the base of your building will be strong enough, you would not have to repair it again and again. And a strong base of any relationship could be built only with the ingredient of trust. There is strictly no substitute for it. So there should not be any dark part of your heart where your secrets have been stored. There is no place for dark secrets in love. Always remember, your partner always try to find the trust in your eyes for them and you would be able to trust your partner only if there will be full transparency among you.

If there would be any kind of secret in your life, it will start giving you a headache and your love relationship would be affected. The trust among you will start to decrease. You will start telling lies to your partner to maintain your secrets. And at the very end, the trust among you would get destroyed and without the presence of trust, love would not be able to survive for long.

Thus, in an ideal relationship, there should be a 100% transparency among the partners. This transparency will create trust which will create a great bonding among you.

5. Absence of Self-interest:

Without including this particular aspect, the topic of ideal love relationship couldn’t be completed. Now a day’s most of the people are getting engaged to each other only for the fulfillment of their self-interest. They usually consider it as love but this is nothing but a business. If you are in a relationship with someone for the fulfillment of your own self-interest i.e., for deriving any kind of profit then it’s not a love relationship, it’s simply a business relationship. In this kind of relationships, one compromises himself/herself and adjust their lives accordingly with the other for any particular consideration and consider it as love.

So if someone is getting engaged with some other person to use those resources or opportunities which the other person possesses, they are not in love, they are actually in a need of that other person. When there will be no need, there might be no love as love is unconditional.

One should always remember, love doesn’t mean making profits; it’s all about giving care, respect, equality, freedom and those beautiful eyes in which your partner can see himself/herself.

6. Respect for the partner’s feelings:

It’s practically impossible to have the exact same kind of feelings and thought-process of both the people living in a relationship. Your thoughts and feelings may be different from your partner but that doesn’t ever mean that your partner’s feelings and thoughts are useless or incorrect. You have to understand that your partner has lived his/her whole life till now with the same thoughts, emotions, and feelings which he/she possess. Thus, if you will not provide equal respect to your partner’s feelings and emotions, it will definitely gonna hurt your partner a lot.

Always remember, if you will provide respect to your partner’s feelings, your partner will respect your feelings too. And this is the sign of an ideal relationship.

7. Right of Equality:

When we are talking about the right to equality, it simply means giving equal importance to your partner on every stage of life. One shouldn’t consider his/her partner as superior or inferior. Being in a relationship is just like having a team of any tournament. There may be someone in the team who use to play really well but he/she won’t be able to win the tournament alone. Every player in the team has its own importance and role.

Similarly, in a relationship, both of the partners have their own importance and role. In the absence of any of them, the existence of the relationship couldn’t be possible. There are a few people who try to be in a dominating position in a relationship and perform their activities accordingly. But this kind of activities makes his/her partner feel insecure and inferior. Later on, these activities cause a reduction in love and a threat to the existence of the relationship. Considering this point, we should treat our partner accordingly so that he/she could feel himself/herself secure and an equally important part of the relationship which is a sign of a healthy relationship.

8. Freedom of Choice:

Being in a relationship doesn’t ever mean to lose your freedom. One must have the freedom of choice, freedom of opinion, freedom to think and so on. A relationship doesn’t ever mean that you have the authority to restrict your partner and to make him/her compromise at every single stage of the relationship. If the love between you and your partner would be strong enough, your partner won’t do anything which you don’t like. But imposing restrictions on your partner is a totally different thing.

People want their partner to act according to them. Few of them even want to control their partner’s normal activities like dressing, eating, talking etc. But the plant of love could only survive in an atmosphere of freedom and equality. Just like one has the freedom to choose his/her partner, they must have the freedom of choice when they use to be in a relationship as well.

9. Mutual Understanding:

One of the most important aspects which make a relationship wonderful is mutual understanding. This is one of the golden aspects of a relationship. It makes any relationship superior from others. Thousands of relationships have been broken down every single day due to lack of mutual understanding. In the absence of understanding of any one or both of the partners, it’s quite impossible for any relationship to last long.

Now the biggest question is how to improve mutual understanding in any relationship? The answer is quite simple. One of the aspects discussed earlier contains its answer. If you want to improve your mutual understanding, you have to think from your partner’s point of view. Till the moment you won’t start looking at every situation from your partner’s point of view, you won’t be able to understand your partner’s thought process, feelings, and emotions. So mutual understanding is more or less connected to your ability to think from your partner’s point of view.

10. Strength of each other’s weaknesses:

An ideal relationship is not one where both the partners use to be perfect in every aspect. Rather an ideal relationship is one where both the partners cover each other’s weaknesses from their own strength. Nobody in this world is totally perfect. Everyone has some weaknesses. So you can’t expect your partner to be perfect. Rather you have to cover your partner’s weaknesses from your strength and vice-versa.

If both the partners would follow the same thing, they would be able to cover each other’s weaknesses and ultimately, there would be no weaknesses in their relationship. And when there would be no weakness, the relationship would become an ideal one.

If you are still reading it, that means you are really serious about your relationship and you want to make your “relationship” a perfect one. So if the following “aspects of a relationship” discussed above would be present there, you would be able to make your relationship an ideal one which would be an inspiration for others.